Dating Advice From Your Favorite Movies
Don’t Wait- Your Time is Now
“Gone with the Wind” is hailed as one of the most romantic epics of all time. One dating tip that might have gone straight over your head the last time you saw it is that if you want someone, get them. And get them now. As Rhett Butler says to Scarlett O’Hara, “I can’t go all my life waiting to catch you between husbands.” So if someone you’ve wanted to date for awhile is single and you’re single, just take a chance and ask them out.
Wait too long, and your perfect mate just might end up with someone else. Ball’s in your court. Had a crush on someone for a long time? Just don’t know how to approach them? Well buddy, your time is now.
Give Someone New a Chance
“Moulin Rouge!” is a colorful musical combining eccentricity with romance in a spectacular film. Christian persuades a reluctant Satine to give him a chance to be her suitor. Against her better judgment, she agrees. And she finds a worthwhile relationship because of it. If it works for her, it can work for you too. When someone new asks you out on a date, say yes. Who knows? They just might be someone worth having in your life.
You can find a great relationship with people you ordinarily never would have considered. If someone new asks you out, what do you have to lose by saying yes? Give them an honest chance- at least two or three dates.
Distance is Not As Big an Obstacle As You’d Think
In “Cold Mountain”, Inman and Ada have to face not only distance but war as well. They’re not in a relationship; they’ve barely had a few words pass between them. But the thought of each other is enough to sustain them through the war in hopes they’ll reunite some day. Luckily, we live in a technologically-savvy age where your long distance relationship isn’t quite as dramatic as that. Keep in touch regularly with your significant other via Skype, Facetime, text, phone call, etc. Your relationship can survive the long distance if you’re willing.
Long distance relationships can be hard. No doubt about it. But know that if your relationship is strong enough, you can survive the distance.
Dating Doesn’t Observe a Strict Timeline
Take Rose and Jack, star-crossed lovers aboard the Titanic. The timeline of their relationship, from meeting till death do them part, is less than a week. A week! However, they found something real in each other in such a short period of time. If you’re into the person you’re dating, don’t put arbitrary limits on yourselves based on what other people suggest. Instead, use your instincts to let your relationship take its natural course.
You’ve probably heard of a general timeline for how dating should proceed. You know, the don’t- go away for a weekend/introduce them to your friends/become intimate until-this-period-of-time-passes rules. Take whatever you know about these and throw them out the window. Dating proceeds naturally; don’t put an expiration date on it.
Your Ex is an Ex for a Reason
Carrie and Mr. Big of “Sex and the City” are the perfect example of this. He’s let her down numerous times in the past, but she just can’t help hoping he means it this time. She’s then crushed when he leaves her at the alter. If your partner consistently flakes on you, don’t expect them to suddenly change this time around. At the end of the day, they’re who they are and you’re who you are. Consider if it’s worth getting back together and if so, how you can learn from the mistakes of the past to move forward.
If you broke it off with your ex before and are debating getting back together, remember that there was a reason you broke up in the first place. Don’t expect that things will suddenly be different this time around.